Wednesday, February 14, 2018
You know that feeling you have when you're in love? That's your common sense leaving your body.
One of the interesting things about what I do for a living--writing and speaking about change--is that when I 'm at a wedding reception someone will ask me to do a toast.
I'm sure they're thinking, "Hey, this guy speaks for a living so he's gotta be good at this."
I always wonder if they think the same thing about people who do seminars about technology?
Anyway....when I get a chance to make a toast I offer, "Love will make you stupid! And, marriage will prove to you how stupid love made you!"
At that point some folks laugh and some folks don't.
However, I believe that love is the best kind of stupid.
If you have someone to love you're lucky...not just fortunate...lucky. Not everyone has someone to love and so often we simply stumble upon the blessing.
If, right now, you don't have someone to love, stay open to it. Yes, losing love is the deepest kind of hurt...but, the gamble is worth it.
Hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day!
Tuesday, February 6, 2018
During the past few months I’ve felt like I was running through an obstacle course with crocodiles, dragons and pits full of lions with my pants on fire.
Unlike many men I have no trouble admitting that my fear factor was pretty high.
Interestingly, over the last couple of days I’ve been getting messages from all kinds of sources about how to deal with fear. Online notes have just popped up, articles in magazines simply appear and TV commercials kick out the word “fear” on a regular basis.
I may not be the fastest dog on the track, but I can take a hint. Here are five of the best tips I’ve seen for dealing with fear:
1. Do something! Get moving and take a step towards a solution right now. The interesting topic of micro-progress encourages us to take a small step.
2. Use positivity. Do something that makes you feel good. Be careful, though. Don’t choose a negative stimulus like alcohol, drugs or too much food.
3. Imagine the best. Imagine what it would be like if this situation worked out for the best. Feel what the success would be like. Use the mantra, “This is going to work out for the best!”
4. Accept that fear is part of life, it’s an innate reaction that kept us alive as cave people. I was a reaction to what we perceived as a threat to life. Understand, though, that fear today is very different than when we worried about being eaten.
5. Ask, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Once you understand the worst threat you can come up with a plan to deal with it.
Even those among us who seem the bravest feel fear at various times. The difference in them and most of us is that they have learned to put fear in its place and keep moving.
Friday, January 26, 2018
A number of issues can create a situation in which we aren't asked to come out and play as often. The new girl who moved in down the block is a better athlete or the new guy plays the piano or has a great music collection. The new employee has skills you don't have. The industry shifts.
It's a cliche' to say, "the only constant is change," but as Jimmy Buffett sings, "Cliches say what they mean and mean what they say."
What's a change that's happening in your life right now?
Here are three things to think about. Let me give thanks to William Bridges, author of the Transitions books, and Seth Godin, author of The Dip for their wisdom:
- First, you have to recognize that change is here and whatever was working in the past--in that area--has ended. Do some grieving for the loss of the familiar and then pack your bags, it's time to get moving.
- You'll get to a point at which you'll be in what Godin calls "the Dreaded Middle." I call it, "The Wilderness." You'll feel lost. The best solution is to create short-term goals, reward yourself for achieving them and keep moving. Winston Churchill said, "When you're moving through Hell, keep moving."
- You'll eventually get to a New Beginning as Godin labels the...well...new beginning. Now is the time to celebrate. You may not have wanted the change to happen, but you're here now. Look around and recognize what is good about it, raise a glass, and know that there will be a day when the new beginning will be the norm.
As for the change--or changes--in your life, which of the three phases are you in right now?
Thursday, January 18, 2018
Granted, some folks MUST go to work and we should thank all the first responders and people who show up snow, rain, shine or hailing streetcars.
But, if you are home today--working from home is what you're tellig everyone--what are you going to get done?
Try this...pick 3 work things to get done...they don't have to be monumental, big-time projects...they can be some of those annoying things that you never seem to find time in the office to do...but, they need to be done.
Pick those things.
And then, get'em done.
And then, have some fun! Snow days aren't meant to be drudgery all...day...long. Get into that kid who is still in your head--sometimes buried under all that grown-up stuff--and have a snowball fight, go sledding, take a walk and enjoy the beauty of it all.
Monday, January 15, 2018
“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, 'Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.' ”
Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Thursday, January 11, 2018
This is waaaay more important than you might think...the edited story below comes from The Hustle, an eletter based in San Franscisco...ask yourself if the topic is affecting you or folks you know/love.
Tech Addition is REAL
"Aside from correlations to mental health disorders like social anxiety and depression, recent studies have shown that smartphone addiction costs corporate America around$54B annually in lost productivity.
"In an unprecedented move two major stockholders are pressuring Apple to address the growing concern of smartphone addiction.
"They urged the company to design more intuitive ways for parents to safeguard their children’s devices, and called for them to build a committee of experts “to assist additional research efforts.
"The World Health Organization recently classified video game addiction as a mental health condition, and a large number of health professionals believe device addiction is going to get worse as technology gets faster and smarter.
It’s not just Apple...they might be in the hot seat right now, but the US, on the whole, has been late to the game on preventative measures to curb overuse.
Australia, China, Japan, India and many others already treat tech addiction like a serious disorder, naming it a public health crisis and investing in in-patient treatment facilities."
Thursday, January 4, 2018
Last night, when you knew it was going to snow and that your activities today would be affected, what did you think?
Yipppeeeee!!! Off today! I can kick back/clean up/play/relax!
Dang! Gotta find a way to get into work; maybe go in late; tons of folks calling; folks saying they can’t make it (well, I’ll make it so why can’t they?)
Well, I guess I can get some work done from home.
Some folks are fortunate and don’t have jobs in which they MUST be at work. Others aren’t so lucky…and others won’t be going to work, but they need to be there for reasons of pay.
Snow is beautiful and, sometimes, fun…but it affects many of us in different ways.
Let’s wish the folks who MUST be out in it well…law enforcement, road workers, EMTs and employees who are in businesses that can’t close. Let’s all say a prayer that those folks get home safely.
Let’s hope good things for folks who are in shelters and churches or sleeping under bridges.
As for those of us at home, let’s try to get something constructive done today. If you have children with you try to remember what it was like when it snowed and you were that age. Try to create a memory instead of a headache.
Good luck with the weather. Stay warm. Stay off the roads if possible.