Monday, December 14, 2009

If You Don't Go, You Don't Know

“If you don’t go, you don’t know.”

I first saw the quote above in the wonderful monthly column, “What I’ve Learned,” in Esquire magazine. If you aren’t familiar with the column, go to, click Features, then click What I’ve Learned. The interviews range across the entire spectrum of society.

Back to the quote.

It is absolutely the truth. There are many situations in life in which other people just ab-so-lutely can not tell you what it’s like, whatever it is. So, unless you go, there is no way you can know.

However, the danger is that the price of knowing may not be worth the going.

And, that’s the rub. You may not begin to know the price until you are on the way, until you are in the process of going. The sluggoes around you will say, “I told you so.” “You knew you shouldn’t have gone.” “I hate you for going.” “The rules said you couldn’t/shouldn’t go.”

But, they aren’t you.

The silver lining is that once you know…you know. And, in knowing, you find that your life has changed. Any time you learn something new, especially if it’s in the big categories, your life changes.

Here’s the most important thing I’ve learned about, “If you don’t go, you don’t know,”…once you know, what do you do with the knowing?

If the knowing changes your life for the better it was worth going, no matter what the cost. If it changes your life in a negative way, at least now you know.

If you learn something important and you keep doing the same things…you’re a dope.

The quote came from an interview with Robert Deniro.

Go somewhere this week…so you’ll know.

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