I love Ricky Nelson’s song, “Garden Party.
It was a 1972 hit for Nelson and the Stone Canyon Band. The inspiration came from his being booed off the stage at Madison Square Garden, seemingly because he was playing his newer, country-tinged music (and looking more 70s than 50s) instead of the 1950s-era rock that he had been successful with earlier, and his realization that "you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself".
Most of the folks you know have an image in their minds of who you are. The image is based on past experiences, things they’ve heard, assumptions they make about how people should act; it’s a whole stew of assumptions/emotions/feelings.
But, you aren’t that stew. It’s their stew.
If you spend your time trying to live up or down to their stew you end up with left-overs for a life.
It’s a silly way to look at it, but you have to make your own stew. And that stew won’t please everyone.
At the end of your life do you want to being lying in that bed thinking, “I spent my whole life making stew for everyone else”?
Make your own stew and find ways to enjoy it.
What’s something you’d rather not be doing that, now, the only reason you do it is to please someone else?
Might be time to turn off the stove and put the lid on that pot.
PS...today is John Wayne's Birthday. Happy Birthday, Duke!