A good friend of mine is making some major life changes. He’s a professional who has the courage to step away from a 30-year career to seek something different.
We talked for a long time yesterday about his move and some of the logistics of making it happen. He isn’t financially secure enough to retire but he can take a while to slow down, look at his life and make some decisions.
One of his comments has stuck with me. He said, “I’ve spent most of my life trying to please other people.” And, I’ll have to say that he’s done a good job of that.
I suggested that now seemed to be the time to please himself.
But, here’s the rub: If he spends time trying to please himself some of those folks he’s been pleasing for years won’t like it because, to them, he’ll be a different person. And most folks don’t like their assumptions and long-held beliefs challenged.
You need to realize as my friend does that if you decide to take a journey to a different place there will be some people who won’t be coming along…and the old you will be one of them. And that can be difficult for everyone concerned.
To whom will you be waving goodbye?