About 20 years ago I visited a shrink while trying to work through some life issues. He was great…he didn’t tell me what I should do so much as he asked questions and led me to come up with my own conclusions and direction.
One of the most interesting questions was, “Mike, do you ever listen to what you’re saying when you teach people in seminars? Do you ever take your own advice?”
For the last 24 hours I’ve been following my own advice from yesterday’s blog, Do You Feeeeeeel It?!!
I’m trying to make some challenging decisions so I’m writing them down, reading them, and seeing how I feeeeel.
Some topics, decisions and issues give me a, “Yeah, that’s the direction I need to go” feeling. Others almost immediately give me a, “Mmmmm, I don’t know about that” feeling or a definite, “I don’t want to do that” sensation.
I will be the first to admit that as an adult we have to do some things every now and then that we’d rather not do. I get it that the world isn’t blue birds and lemonade every day. However, knowing where you’re running into friction in life understanding what causes it and how to work through is truly helpful.
If you have a mechanism like this that can help you identify and work through challenges you’d have to be pretty damned stupid not to use it.
And, while I’ve had some folks—usually in relationships—point out that I ain’t the brightest bulb in the hall I’m not so stupid that I’ll ignore a tool that makes my life easier, more fulfilling and more successful.
Try the strategy I detailed in yesterday’s blog: Write down what you have to do, read each item and see if you’re getting warmer or colder with each one.
This tool works.