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Thursday, October 24, 2013
Stop It! And Succeed
Yesterday was the last
day of a four-part management program I presented for a college here in North
One of the participants
was a young woman, early-20s, who is smart, quick and obviously headed for
But, she spent a lot of
time in class—all four sessions—messing with her fingernails, the ends of her
hair and the tassle on a cellphone holster.
Maybe she was bored, I
certainly understand that. I get bored hearing me talk sometimes. Maybe it’s me
just being an old…mmm….fuddy, duddy.
After watching her do
it for three hours, though, I determined that her habits were probably
something she does in meetings at work.
So, the next week at a
break I caught up with her at a break and pulled her aside. I gently pointed
out that if she wasn’t aware of her habits she should be. I talked about what a
smart person she seemed to be and that I’d hate for her progress at her current
job and in her career to be stunted because people saw her habits as immaturity.
And yes, I get that
fact that me bringing the issue up to her brought up an element of risk on a
variety of levels. But, she’s a smart, young person and if people can catch
negative issues early they can often advance more quickly. If I can help
someone move ahead I’ll certainly do it; so, I’ll take the risk.
We often don’t have any
idea how some of our habits hold us back. We seldom are fortunate enough to
have people who will candidly discuss those things with us.
That’s not to say that
we listen all the time. But, we should.