Tips, tactics and strategies to help you have a Perfect Workday AND a lighter heart.
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
Good morning, class!
Today we’ll learn a new phrase that can make you happier, healthier, smarter
and….MIKE!!! STOP TALKING TO DAVID, TURN AROUND AND SIT UP! IF YOU DON’T STOP
TALKING IN CLASS YOU LITTLE BRAT I’M GOING TO TEAR YOU A…..ahem…now…let’s get
back to our lesson.
Today’s new phrase is, hedonic
Hedonic means characterized
or related to pleasure.
Simply put, hedonic
adaptation means that we get adapted to, get used to, begin to take for
granted, good things and we don’t appreciate and enjoy them as much as we did
when we first attained them.
The current issue of Psychology Today notes a study in the
journal, Social, Psychological and
Personality Science, that offers four strategies for helping us continue to
appreciate the good things in life.
it up. Jordi Quoidbach, one of the study’s authors suggests using a temporary-deprivation
strategy for reappreciating everything from chocolate to sex.
a break. This sounds like the suggestion above, but Quoidbach suggests stopping
the activity and restarting a little later. Stop in the middle of a television
show you like and come back to it in a few hours or the next day. Take multiple
short trips instead of one long vacation so you don’t have time to adjust to
the vacation lifestyle.
amateur status. If you are really good at something or you’ve been doing it a
long time it’s easy to get jaded. Try to go back to the feelings/places/mindset/people/situations
you were in when you first started.
your life without. Sonya Lyubomirsky, author of The Myths of Happiness, says we
should picture our lives without the thing we’ve come to take for granted. How
does the picture look? How do you feel about the loss?
BONUS PHRASE: Psychologists
talk about habituating to happiness, essentially the same thing as hedonic
adaptation. The thing/activity/person/feeling that made us happy
becomes a habit…and we take it for granted.
Take a little break.
Imagine your life without the thing/activity/person/feeling. Chances are that
it won’t take long before you miss it and want it back. And when you get it
back you’ll appreciate it a little more.
Just don’t forget that
this is an ongoing process so it might not be a bad idea to plan for little
breaks every now and then.
MIKE!!! IT’S ABOUT TIME
THIS CLASS TOOK A BREAK FROM YOU! DAVID, YOU, TOO!! BOTH OF YOU, GO TO THE
OFFICE AND TELL PRINCIPAL WARD IF HE DOESN’T….ahem…sorry class…now, back to our
Mike Collins is president of The Perfect Workday Company, an information company based in The Research Triangle Region of North Carolina. He presents 100+ programs a year for organizations such as IBM, American Express, Novo Nordisk Pharmaceuticals and The John F. Kennedy Special Warfare School and Center.