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Monday, December 16, 2013
I Should Have Listened
In a recent discussion
with a friend I confessed that I’d been pretty stupid and immature at times as
a young man. I know some of you who are long-term friends and/or acquaintances
find that surprising.
I look back now on
some of my actions and inactions and, to be honest, I’m embarrassed and
(I always believe that people who say, “I have no
regrets” just didn’t push the envelope far enough or they have no conciences)
Shoot, I’m regretful
for things I did and said last week but that’s another story. My contention is
that if you are going to actually LIVE (an active verb) you’re going to do some
things that you eventually look back on and ask, “Can I get a do-over?”
Anyway, my point to my
friend was that there were times in my past when people more mature than I tried to point out that I might not be
taking a path that would turn out best for me; they tried to give me good
advice. And I rarely listened, but at least I heard an alternative.
Her belief is that you
have to let people live their lives and find their own ways.
The older I get the more I believe
that depending on your relationship with the person you go ahead and offer the
suggestion/advice and give them the opportunity to take it or not.
Maybe I’m actually
getting to the point in life at which I understand that others have gone before
me and might have wisdom to share.
The path you are suggesting might be something that
never occurred to them. Or, they weren’t aware that what they were doing was
leading them to a less-than-positive outcome.
Granted, you have to pick your stances and pick
your battles. And yes, others might not see your suggestion as wisdom; they
might see it as meddling.
I guess I’d
rather be in the position of them saying/feeling, “Mind your own business,”
rather than “I had no idea. Why didn’t you tell me?”
Mike Collins is president of The Perfect Workday Company, an information company based in The Research Triangle Region of North Carolina. He presents 100+ programs a year for organizations such as IBM, American Express, Novo Nordisk Pharmaceuticals and The John F. Kennedy Special Warfare School and Center.