Monday, April 7, 2014

Drunk Goggles and Reality

Not long ago a woman in one of my seminars said she’d run into a guy who she thought was a good guy, “but I guess I had on my ‘drunk goggles’.”

Drunk goggles?

“You know what drunk goggles are,” she went on, “They’re the lenses of life we see through late at night at a bar after we’ve had a few too many.”

Things/people/situations often look better, rosier and more inviting when we’re wearing our drunk goggles.

I’ve gotta believe drunk goggles are what people are wearing when they utter the famous Southern last words, “Hey y’all! Watch this!”

Scientists and psychologists have a different phrase for what happens when we have our drunk goggles on. It’s called distorted reality.

When we observe reality in a distorted way it means we’re looking at life through our fears, prejudices, assumptions and incorrect information.

In fact, there are three realities: Distorted Realtiy, Observed Reality and Ultimate Reality.

Now, Ultimate Reality is God, Buddha, pure energy, whatever you want to call it.

Observed Reality is what really happened; what the situation truly is without us seeing it through drunk goggles.

The sad truth is that a lot of individuals/groups/nations see most of life through drunk goggles.

If we ask more questions of the outside world and listen actively we start looking inward and asking, “Was I right about that? Is what I’m believing based on observed reality or distorted reality?”

Those are difficult questions to ask after midnight in a dimly lit bar with 9 beers in you.

The questions can be just as hard to ask in the cold light of day…but you still need to ask them.

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