Monday, September 24, 2018

Slipping, Stumbling and Making It Happen



Believe it or not, there are only a few really important questions you need to ask yourself in life. 

One question you might not consider is, “How do I treat myself when I slip on one of the banana peels of life?” What is your self-talk like? Be honest. Do you berate yourself, “I’m so stupid!” “I always mess up!” Or, do you perceive any mistake, setback or flaw as a failure? 

If so, you are holding yourself back. Research is beginning to show that self-compassion—cutting yourself some slack—is more important than self-esteem—seeing yourself as a winner—in your trek toward success. 

I’m not talking about making excuses for yourself. You have to try. In trying, though, stumbles are simply a natural consequence of growth. We all stumble, but some of us see the bump in the road as failures and let them slow us down. 

Winners see the slips and slides as the outcomes of continuing to try. So often, our egos get in the way. We are so concerned about how others see us that we stop trying. It is 100% guaranteed that you will not fail if you do not try. 

And, most of the time, those people who are laughing and pointing at you when you stumble are not trying. 

They don’t really matter, now do they?

Sunday, September 16, 2018

Goodbye Florence

Most of you reading this have been in the path of Hurricane Florence for the past week. I’m sure your experiences have ranged from benign—little or no loss of power and no flooding; to horrifying—no power, flood damage, maybe displaced from your home. 

If you are reading this, though, you are alive, you have power for your computer and/or phone and you can probably walk over to your sink and get clean drinking water. 

Thousands of our friends and neighbors aren’t as fortunate. In coming days and weeks you will encounter endless messages encouraging you to help with the recovery. Do it. Get out and help in some way. 

However, don’t get so engaged with others that you forget to take care of yourself. This has been, and will continue to be, a stressful time for all of us. Drink more water and try to get more rest. 

Take time to appreciate your blessings. In fact, start and end each day with thankfulness. Each morning, write down 3 things you are looking forward to, today. Before bed, jot down 3 things for which you are thankful. 

We are here, alive and able to handle challenges; those are my 3 for today.

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Flying the Flag



A hurricane flag is not usually a sign of good things to come; it's a sign of challenges and, possibly, dangers. The wonderful thing about it though is that it gives a sign of what might be coming.

What are the hurricane flags in your life? Are your credit card accounts getting too high? What are your scales telling you? Are there family issues you should pay more attention to? What's happening at work?

We all have challenges facing us, but there are always a few things we'd better take seriously.

What are the hurricane flags in your life?

Tuesday, September 4, 2018

One Of These Days...

How often do you hear yourself say and/or think: One of these days I’ll… Or, Let’s get together soon. (What’s the definition of soon?) When I get time I’ll __________. You know, I should __________.

 STOP!

 If something is important, truly important, make time for it. Set a day and time on your calendar and get started. You don’t have to finish whatever it is or do an extraordinary job, you just need to start.

 You need to step out, meet with that person, get something down on paper or on the screen, make that purchase…begin. 

Good intentions are wonderful, but that’s all they are, intentions. 

In the next five minutes get started on something you have been meaning to do. Point your mind in that direction and ACT! You’ll be amazed at the fact that the first step leads to the second and that leads to….