Believe it or not, there are only a few really important questions you need to ask yourself in life.
One question you might not consider is, “How do I treat myself when I slip on one of the banana peels of life?” What is your self-talk like? Be honest. Do you berate yourself, “I’m so stupid!” “I always mess up!” Or, do you perceive any mistake, setback or flaw as a failure?
If so, you are holding yourself back. Research is beginning to show that self-compassion—cutting yourself some slack—is more important than self-esteem—seeing yourself as a winner—in your trek toward success.
I’m not talking about making excuses for yourself. You have to try. In trying, though, stumbles are simply a natural consequence of growth. We all stumble, but some of us see the bump in the road as failures and let them slow us down.
Winners see the slips and slides as the outcomes of continuing to try. So often, our egos get in the way. We are so concerned about how others see us that we stop trying. It is 100% guaranteed that you will not fail if you do not try.
And, most of the time, those people who are laughing and pointing at you when you stumble are not trying.
They don’t really matter, now do they?