Friday, April 6, 2018

Thanks, But No Thanks

 We’re all busy. 

But, some of us have a bad habit that makes busy even more challenging. We regularly take on more than we should. The habit’s source can be anything from having a lot of responsibilities and no one else to help to having trouble saying, “No.” 

Think about this for a moment: Do you have someone in your life who continues to lay responsibilities on your doorstep? They could be a family member—young or old—coworker, friend, neighbor or fellow church-goer. 

If you’d like to try an interesting experiment, the next time they bring you a pile of something to do simply say, “I’d love to help, but right now I’m totally swamped.” And then, shut up. 

See what their comeback is, if they have one. There will be a percentage of folks who will keep at you and it will be a wonderful opportunity to simply repeat, "As I said, I'd love to help, but right now I'm swamped." Don't say, "Maybe later, or give me a few minutes." Simply shut up. 

They'll probably give you that know the one that says, "I don't know who you are now." That's a good thing. Simply offer a light, "I'm sure you understand" smile.

However, you’ll be surprised how many will say, “Oh. Well. Ok. Thanks anyway.” And, you won’t have to worry about them as much in the future.